Jay Valens on October 31st, 2008

Believe it or not we added yet ANOTHER bonus to the Tactics & Techniques package.

It took a bit of negotiation, and I fought for you guys to make the bonus available, all the way up until 1 minute BEFORE I unleashed Tactics & Techniques.  Literally, just as I was ready to flip the switch, I got the call that gave me the go-ahead to make the offer.

So after I got back to flipping the switch, I needed to re-visit our description page and because we got this extra bonus added one day after unleashing the beast, I am giving you guys a whole extra day to get access to the bonuses we’re including with the T&T package.

So now you have until midnight (Eastern Time) on November 3 to ensure you get access to the full set of bonuses.

To find out about the extra bonus, go to:



P.S. More bootcamps, articles, and videos on the way, just need 1-2 days breather for myself after all the work I’ve done this month.

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Jay Valens on October 30th, 2008

Hey guys, the WITCHING HOUR is upon us!

No more waiting, “The Art of the Pickup: Tactics & Techniques” is officially ready for release!  I could go on and on, but I know what you really want to do is to:

Go get all the info on it ASAP!

You WILL want to check out the info on it, because we have a limited time bonus bundle packed with an assortment of incredible features - all are digital downloads you get IN ADDITION to the core product.

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Jay Valens on October 30th, 2008

Here’s our commentary on the “Short Circuiting LMR” clip!

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Jay Valens on October 29th, 2008

When I was still in college, I used to work at a print shop.  We did all kinds of printing copying and finishing.  My friend who worked there (the first guy I ever knew who had actual, real, game with women) always gave me gold nuggets of advice that I never realized were gold until years later.

Anyway, at this place just about everything we did involved repetition.  Printing, collating, cutting, folding, binding, packing.  Even the things that didn’t seem to have a repetition were repetitive in the sense that we did them many times for different jobs and customers.  Layout, plate-making, repairing and cleaning machines, shipping.

My friend would always have a competition, against himself, to find any angle possible to do any given task faster, more efficient, and better.  There were even times I would find a way to beat his performance, only to find he found yet another way to do something faster and more efficient.

I didn’t find this discouraging at all, it was inspiring, and I found such challenges made the job more enjoyable than it already was (call me crazy, I liked running a printing press).  What I learned from that was a certain life-improving discipline which I’ll share with you now.

This performance-chasing friend would tell me “repetition builds speed and accuracy”.

He was right.  I don’t think he looked any deeper than the cause and effect, but the curious person I am I tend to want to know why such a simple pragmatism never fails.  To understand it is to own it.

It’s not that repetition builds some kind of physical change, unless you’re talking about working out or nutrition or the landscape being carved by water over millions of years.  What repetition does, when it comes to actions and behavior, is build a “memory”, but not a memory of an event, rather a memory of a path.  Like walking a trail so often that you eventually create a visible path to follow where you can let go of the memory altogether and what remains is the equivalent of instinct.

Ants do this.

Have you ever watched how ants forage?  They have a colony and it seems when the ants begin to investigate the terrain, they crawl around almost randomly but then eventually they make a trail that all of them follow to and from a source of food.

How do they know which way to go?

What they do is, when they are initially foraging for food, they crawl around randomly until they find something.  Then, on their way back to the colony, the leave a scent trail using pheromones.  After time, when multiple ants do this, the pheromone trail back to the colony becomes stronger and stronger, to the point where ants leaving the colony and going to the food can easily follow the most direct trail available to the food, even without any other ants to follow.

How does this help you?

It helps you to understand and appreciate the value of repetition.  Repetition garners familiarity and with familiarity comes inherent confidence.  When you are familiar with something, you are more confident in it.  When you are familiar with something, you are more skillful. You are quicker on your feet.  You have more predictable results.

Once you build enough repetition and familiarity in something, the path has been paved so solidly that you become inherently competent, your instincts are finely tuned, and you can easily trust yourself to get the outcome you want without it feeling hard to do.

But to get there, you need to pound down the path.  You need to utilize the tool of experience to get to the point of what can be called a natural instinct.  If you didn’t understand this before, you understand it now and the next gold nugget I will give you is to realize that you are like an ant in a colony and the experiences of others are like the pheremone trails building up.

For example, when we give you a tactic, technique, or routine, on this blog or in the almost-released “Tactics & Techniques”, we are giving you tried-and-tested piece of game that you can use and repeat enough times that eventually, put altogether, allows you to build an instinct for pickup.  Each individual piece of material, no matter how much we break it down, won’t be a magic bullet by itself to get you there, but the combination of it all, and put into practice with repetition WILL get you there.

So, let go of the conflict between “direct game” or “indirect” game, “inner game” versus “outer game”, natural versus dynamic, eventually it will all be natural and dynamic for you.  But you can’t get there without the ant trails.  You can’t forage for success by blindly going in all directions without building those trails.

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Jay Valens on October 29th, 2008

I haven’t done dishes in over a week. The rest of my place looks like a tornado ripped through it.  I won’t even tell you about my stacks of laundry.

Everyone who knows me knows I’m normally an insanely clean guy, my place is always taken care of.

So what happened?

I’ve been working non-stop insane hours to bring you the best, both this month and into the future, to the point of obsession.  Now, it’s not likely I’ll be working this insane, ignoring such basic human needs as sleep, indefinitely.  But, we’re close to unleashing one of the most kick-ass packages to help your game that you will ever come across.

Speaking of “the kitchen sink”, the T&T package will include everything AND the kitchen sink (don’t worry, not mine).  I’ll leave the final details for the witching hour (hey, we are releasing it on HALLOWEEN), but in short it will include a number of digital bonuses along with the T&T disc set, such as an exclusive 90-minute interview with Cameron Teone, an audio file of our first teleconference, a 35-minute incredibly detailed “first date” how-to video, the full and complete transcripts for T&T (187 pages long), and access to our next 4 teleconferences.

As a precursor to all that, I’ve made it a point to flood this blog with constant bits of advice and videos, sent out (and still sending) some of the best newsletters anywhere on pickup to both our “Pickup Arts” newsletter and “Tactics & Techniques” bonus list, host an email bootcamp that’s still going on, organizing free giveaways, a teleconference, preparing the behind-the-scenes technicals to make this all happen, and all kinds of other goodies.  That’s just the stuff you see.  The blog itself and all our infrastructure are hobbled together with my bare hands, code, graphics, and most of the content.  A lot of you know I also host the largest site on the planet for pickup, and I can’t even begun to tell you what’s planned for the future.

But this month… this month… was dedicated to ensuring a proper introduction to “Tactics & Techniques“.  I have a number of videos still to share, continued advice, and even more newsletter follow-ups.  Most importantly, in less than 2 days, the media package you’ve been anticipating and waiting for will finally be unleashed and, maybe, just maybe, I’ll get some sleep.

After I do my dishes.

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Jay Valens on October 28th, 2008

You’re making out and starting to escalate to sex, then she resists or pulls back. She’s clearly interested, not saying no, but still offering up resistence. We’ve all been there. Here is a way to short circuit this sort of behavior from her.

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Jay Valens on October 27th, 2008

You probably noticed the countdown on the top right of the page.  In a few days, we’ll be unleashing the full package for “The Art of the Pickup: Tactics & Techniques“.

We want to help you…
Get Your Game In Gear

A lot of you already have our DVD set, “The Art of the Pickup”, and a bunch of you were on the recent teleconference, so I’m sure you’re going to be VERY INTERESTED in what we’ve got in store.

I know a lot of you wanted to be in on the teleconference, we had to stop letting people connect after we reached nearly 50 people, in order to manage the conference properly.  We did have some dropouts and opened up the lines for a short time halfway through but quickly had to lock it down again!  It was pretty cram-packed.  So, for a very short time when we initially release T&T, we’ll be offering an audio file of the teleconference with the package.

The package will have lots of other digital bonuses, but the teleconference will only be included with it the first few days.  In addition, I talked with Ray and we decided to up the ante and include access to up to 4 other 60-90 minute teleconferences we’ll be holding in the near future for anyone who gets the package within the first few days it’s available.  We can’t do this forever, we’re EXTREMELY busy guys, so the offer will only be on the table for the first few days.

In a little while I’ll be sharing the full details of T&T and various bonuses…

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Jay Valens on October 26th, 2008

Ray & I share feedback on this opener. As before, the audio track is subdued so you can hear our commentary track.

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Jay Valens on October 25th, 2008

Here’s a great opener. It’s funny, ballsy, and is great for opening groups. Not all groups will “get it” or have enough of a sense of humor t play along, but at least 1/2 will. Even if the group doesn’t catch on, usually at least 1 person in the group does and, if it’s a girl then you can banter with her first and you can throw the attention to her. If only 1 of the guys in the group catches on, just say “He gets it” and keep going.

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Jay Valens on October 24th, 2008

The teleconference turned out really well, thanks to the guys who were on the call and for having a good range of really good questions.  Thanks also to our good friend Cameron Teone who assisted in answering questions, and also to “Big Brother” who did a great job moderating.

We did have to end up turning away callers after we had about 50 people on the line, so sorry to anyone who couldn’t get in or called in a little too late to lock in a “seat”.  We opened the lines again later on when it seemed some people lost their connections, then we had to close it up again.  I’ll have to think of some way to “make amends” for those who missed the window or didn’t manage to get on the call.

In the meantime, we’re happy to answer any questions you have here.

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