I think a simple way around that dichotomy is to know that there’s never anyone forcing you to follow through all the way with any girl, so there’s no reason to stop flirting or practicing social improvement (with everyone, not just women). There must be a balance. It’s very good and powerful to be a man who can always maintain choices, but also feel like that’s all they are - choices. You can still choose to ditch other options for one girl that makes you happy.

And, well, if some day that girl no longer makes you happy, you’ll have choices :)

Secondly, it tells you how to keep the girl rather than ditch her.

This is in no way a criticism, but one thing that I would add is that, yeah, having 3 - 5 quick lays in your phone book at any one time is great, but don’t be afraid to ditch them in favor of one who will make you happy. Strictly on a time-saving/scheduling factor, it was way easier for me to have one I could get together with, rather than juggling a bunch of different schedules. Oh yeah, the connection thing was also better, but that can depend upon who you select.

It is helpful.

Thanks,

Worst of all, men’s egos are unduly boosted because some women will laugh at their boyfriend’s button pushing, inane jokes, etc. out of habit or complacency. I myself am guilty of this. My ex still thinks he’s hilarious and a great button pusher and he’s neither. I was only attracted to the enthusiasm behind his jokes, and never at the jokes themselves. He walked away from the relationship convinced he was hilarious, I walked away from it rolling my eyes. I apologize to the next woman that dates him for having given so many white lies, I mean, white laughs.