- Roommates… are they worth it? I’m sure many have an opinion on this… #
- @RonExercia What can I say… I’m a slow adopter of other people’s technologies :) in reply to RonExercia #
- I’ve never seen this before - the Michael Jackson Pepsi accident when his hair caught fire - there’s actual footage of if. http://tr.im/tqib #
Loading ...- I’ll be teaching “Day Game: Prep, Opening & Transitioning” next Sat. (18th) +troubleshooting specific attendee issues. http://tr.im/formy #
- Man fucks up blow job. News at 11. http://tr.im/blowdup #
- Google Chrome OS. Hm… Chrome browser isn’t exactly something to cheer about, so I’m not putting much stock into this. http://tr.im/googos #
- Lick her neck before you kiss her… http://tr.im/lickit #
- Billy Mays dead? What’s with life expectancy plummeting to 50 all of a sudden? #
- Off to see Transformers 2… &, what’s w/ the “bad economy”? I look around WeHo & see 2x as many people as usual shopping & touristing… #
- Liz Garbus “Shouting Fire: Stories From the Edge of Free Speech”. Check it out. #
- Power outage in my building. 4th time in less than 1 yr in my area. LA is ridiculous. #
- Why does gas mileage seem better the more gas there is in the tank? #
- Do u use Avast & wan2 speed up FastSeduction.com? 4 sum reason webshield component of Avast makes FS crawl. FS is safe. Put it on whitelist. #
- Hmm, the Avast issue is some kind of combination of running and/or settings for: Standard, Web & Network Shields. Can I get some volunteers? #
- @drdrew I thought to message u - did u sign up to tweeteradder.com on u’r own? Looks like a BS site for password-grabbing, change your pass. in reply to drdrew #
- I forgot today was an off day. That’s a good conversation starter today. Go use it! #
- Matt Taibbi, “The Great American Bubble Machine” - http://tinyurl.com/lys3m3 - read & learn #
- Why do so many people trust their Twitter account credentials to 3rd party sites? Seriously folks, get a clue. - http://tinyurl.com/6gcc3a #
- Cross-browser development makes me… want to get some sunshine… #
- Some heavyset road rage nut just blocked my car in a lot, got out of his & went totally mental on me at the top of his lungs. Meh. #
- http://twitpic.com/8cnrf - Catching Butterfly Boucher @ The Hotel Café in Hollywood. #
- An entertainer of grand proportions died today: Jeff Goldblum. Apparently also Harrison Ford died, along w/ Farrah Fawcett. Anyone else? … #
- @TNgirlinWA I know, please look more deeply into my biting sarcasm :) in reply to TNgirlinWA #
- A Spider-Man musical? What? http://tr.im/pUoi #
- Grabin bite near LAX, had 2 drop off sum media 4 Ross Jeffries. On my way north now 2 drop by a Casanova Crew talk. Hope 2 get a break Sat.. #
- This photo feels like a renaissance painting - http://graphics8.nytimes.com/i…..bwe600.jpg #
- “Blogger” isn’t a job title, skill or degree. It should be a hurdle to publish online like in the early days. The bar needs raising. #
- Just went to Fatburger for the 1st time out of morbid curiosity. It’s stupid. “Because your taste in clothes should match your burger.” huh? #
- Going out to work in the sun. Now if only I could make my screen more visible in sunlight… #
- Co-location host facility having routing issue. 1st problem like that in 2 yrs. Said they’ll have it fixed in 15-20. That was 20+ min ago… #
- Everything appears to be back up. http://tr.im/fs101 #
- Arg, network issues not completely resolved. Packets to some outbound networks are getting dropped, so some people may still see issues… #
- Google Chrome is a terrible browser. #
- @alyankovic Looks like you got *6* switches on the wall behind him. Set up 1 of them to turn the Segway off :) Surely one can be a spare… in reply to alyankovic #
- I’ve used lots of virus apps (Norton [$,crap], AVG [OK], & Avast! [free,good]) but the best to clean the worst malware is PrevX: prevx.com #
- Hm, seems evey time I host a Saturday class, the weather is super cloudy. http://tr.im/formy #
- Working on an automated feed fetcher for the Lair List: http://bit.ly/13sDLv #
- Many times I wonder if it’s easier building on others’ code, constantly fix their bugs or, as usual, do most everything myself from scratch. #
- “Linc, I can’t feel my legs” … “They ain’t nothin, but a thang” #
- I just realized I didn’t use my vocal cords at all in the past 18 hours. #
- If you make posts (which end up archived) on a public site, please don’t barrage the webmaster months/years later w/requests to remove it. #
- http://tr.im/genes - Fascinating & hilarious interview w/ Gene Simmons (of KISS fame), link shared by someone on mASF ( http://tr.im/masf ) #
- “You will”… http://bit.ly/GqCZ8 #
- F’ing Twitter… background image disappears & can’t be updated. #
- Finding easier way to post pics when not home. So far so good. Will try out soon. For now, writing fresh newsletters - http://tr.im/aotptt #
- Gene Simmons interview is gone! Anyone know where the MP3 can be found, let me know… #
- Google Wave… the next big thing that will waste my time… http://wave.google.com/ #
- Don’t fall for the “I’m a guru to pickup gurus” scams. Seen 2nd marketing type try it, I’m sure it’ll catch on & everyone claims it soon… #
- Did ya hear? “Acai Berry” is the new rage. Asked the last person who mailed if it’s effective stuffed it up his ass. Waiting on a reply… #
- Working on some new bundles of joy for everyone! - http://tr.im/ltsstore #
- Having stock photos of nude girls or babes in bikinis on a pickup site MUST mean it’s run by expert “PUA”s. Honest. Buy stuff from them. #
- http://twitpic.com/6q23s - Having a bite in WeHo then possibly going to catch “Land of the Lost”. #
- Scratch that… it’s “Hangover” instead… #
- http://tr.im/maniac The long-awaited Maniac_High interview is released! A pickup pioneer, this 3-part audio is one you won’t want to miss… #
- Hope everyone had a great long weekend! I think it’s time I get a grill for my place… the balcony isn’t used enough. #
- http://tr.im/kippi Building on the Maniac interview, we follow up with another blast from the past, Kipp! 3-part audio. #
- Supposed to go to Valley, wanted more sleep, got call from neighbor to talk 1hr about “mold” in my apt building. Valley skipped. Sleep… #
- Friend & renowned pickup artist Sinn just released: Day Game from A to Z Mastery Program. http://tr.im/sinn - only 500 copies! #
- http://twitpic.com/6a7og - An uncommonly cloudy day in LA. Sounds like the perfect day for an Afternoon Academy class :) http://tr.im/formy #
My friend and ladies man Cameron recently wrote a 2-part article on what he calls having “Edge”. Essentially, it’s about understanding that there’s no such thing as “pure game”. Meaning, it’s bullshit to believe that a guy employing “game” alone will have success based on that alone, no matter how good his game. There are two other components required. He must have at least 1 “edge” to him, at least 1 thing of superficial (yet real) value and, just as important (if not more important), be a “cool guy”. You can read Part 1, “Everybody Has An Edge! Do You?” and Part 2, “Developing/Honing Your Edge“, on Cameron’s blog.
Simply put, all things being equal, if you have 2 guys with the same game skill, the guy with the edge, or the BETTER edge, will get the better results most of the time. Even further, the guy who is also a “cool guy” will do even better.
I wrote about something very similar on mASF that I referred to as “currency”, “lures” and occasionally “hooks” or “bait” and how they play a role in pickup and how those things by themselves aren’t about attraction so much as they are about having things that trigger a context for you to apply game in the first place. The element I didn’t cover is the most basic notion of “being a cool guy”, mainly because that’s the hardest thing to transform a guy into through “training”.
So, you can’t JUST have an edge. You need good game and to be a “cool guy”. Yes, guys all over the world every day get laid without any edge, without any game, and without being “cool guys”, but we’re not talking about simply eeking out an existence, we’re talking about having regular and predictable results with women that you’re satisfied with. Chances are, if you’re not satisfied with your current results, then you’re missing at least 1 of these components:
- You’re a cool guy
- You have at least 1 edge
- You have game
You may even be missing ALL of them!
I used to regularly wonder why so many guys getting into “the community” (the pickup community) would be in it for a long time and still not see results. This very simple understanding that Cameron has written about and that I’d had a discussion about a while back on mASF essentially explains why. Those guys essentially had (and still do) come into the community with either none of those 3 aspects to them or ONLY having the edge.
Some guys, for example, would be wealthy and still not get results because they didn’t have game and when they LEARNED game, they still didn’t see results because they were lacking that simple basic thing of “being a cool guy”. Other guys did nothing except learn game, and didn’t hone any other aspect of their life, neither trying to be a cool guy, nor building or defining an edge for themselves. That’s why guys who seemingly pull off “game” with great proficiency are still seen as “creepy” or “weird” - all they have is game, and it’s just plain socially retarded to treat life as if it was Dungeons & Dragons.
My feeling is that anyone either seeking to be taught how to get better results with women, and those who TEACH guys how to get getter results with women, need to observe themselves or their “student” and determine which of these 3 aspects need to be addressed. For the guy himself, he has to be able to be BRUTALLY HONEST with himself and put the effort in to work on the aspects he is weak on. He has to realize that it’s NOT just about having good game just as much as it’s not just about being wealthy, good-looking, famous, owning a house, having a great job, etc etc. And even with those things, even with an abundance of resources and high level of skill in game, most people intuitively do not want to be around such guys by choice (beyond superficial reasons) unless that guy is also a “cool guy”.
I’ll cover how to be a “cool guy” in a follow-up article.
Hopefully this article has been insightful to you! Also, we’ve recently been adding TONS of valuable offerings in our updated store, including Cameron’s 16-CD set, “Building Attraction Secrets“, multiple interviews with truly skillful guys, and even more training materials and resources from our friends in the industry.
