Hey as some of you know, we have a newsletter for The Art of the Pickup which we send out called “Pickup Arts”. I’ve just put up a sampler PDF of some really helpful newsletters I’ve written at our Tactics & Techniques bonuses page.
It’s available as an immediate download, and I probably won’t keep it up there forever, so go grab it now!
~Jay
Loading...Here’s Part 4 of the Foundations for Tactics & Techniques. Some broad strokes on attraction for you! This is stuff we’ll be covering in detail for you soon, with specific routines.
Hey guys, Ray has put together a document on his most-valued routine, “The Four Secret Questions”. He’s talked to me about it many times and he always tells me that it’s “devastating” in how powerful it is for him to go from meeting a girl, draw out her attraction, and trigger the right responses from her to lead her thinking towards sex.
It’s a 21-page document covering every detail of the routine, variations, and troubleshooting. You can get your copy at our “Tactics & Techniques” sign-up page:
http://www.artofthepickup.com/aotptt/
When you sign up, you’ll also be getting my 6-part email bootcamp, plus specific advice we’ll only be sending out to subscribers.
~Jay
Here’s Part 3 of the Foundations for Tactics & Techniques. It covers the basics of what we’ll be getting to with other videos, particularly transitioning from opening into attraction.
We screened all our other videos to a bunch of girls and asked them to give us feedback and something that really stood out for them was that although there are guys out there who do approach them, it usually fizzles after that, and it never occurred to them it’s because a lot of those guys probably didn’t know how to transition from initially talking to them into actually getting them really interested.
Here’s Part 2 of the Foundations for Tactics & Techniques. It gives a broad overview about opening and elements of openers, and opening.
A lot of guys have a hard time initiating touch with a woman, or they do it wrong. It’s important to touch a woman early on when meeting her, for many reasons. If you don’t touch her at all she is going to have you in the “just friends” category, or that category in her mind that indirectly thinks “he isn’t interested in sex”.
Establishing touch early on does all the right things. It lets her know that you are not looking to “just be friends”. If done right, it automatically releases good chemicals in her body (specifically a hormone called oxytocin) that make her feel good and happy and relaxed. Also, it is the first step in a progression of touch that gets increasingly intimate over time and makes the eventual transition to kissing and sex really natural and easy.
So a great little tactic I started doing naturally a long time and that I use frequently to establish touch is simply to compare hand size with a woman. You can do it at any time, you can even interrupt whatever you are saying and sort of “happen” to notice her hands and just say:
“Let me see your hand”
At the same time, you can put your hand out with fingers outstretched. The clear meaning is she should put up her hand to yours, and if she does this you have also figured out that she is open to being led by you, and this is a great first sign!
If she doesn’t immediately put up her hand you simply reach out and bring her hand up to yours. Now, there are a few possibilities. If she has really small hands you can comment on that. If she has really slender fingers you can comment on that. Maybe she has well manicured nails and you can compliment her for taking care of herself. If she has been being a brat and has big hands, you can bring her down a notch and tease her that her hands are almost bigger than yours.
You can even move from this into other forms of prolonged hand contact, like playful thumb wrestling, palm reading, playing mercy, hand slapping game, whatever. If I am alone with her when I do this I will often just start holding her hand and keep talking naturally. Or I will let her hand rest on my hand from above, and if she doesn’t take it back that is also a green light that she is interested.
Anyway, there are a lot of variations and some subtleties, but generally this is a great technique to use and its part of my bread and butter. I’m happy to answer any questions on this.
Ray
(3 votes, average: 4.67 out of 5)You can’t build a house without a solid foundation. Here we present you Part 1 of “The Art of the Pickup: Tactics & Techinques”, Foundations.
We’ll be putting up Part 2 in short time, check back soon. Be sure to sign up for the list for this blog to be notified with any news about this blog, as well as bonuses only available for the list.
As some of you know, we are two once “average Joes” when it came to women, and have both been studying and practicing the “Art of the Pickup” for almost a decade each. We have traveled the world and developed tactics and techniques with women, and met other experts and learned from them, too. We’ve had unique access to the best of what is out there, and are here to share some of our knowledge with you.
What we were lucky enough to stumble upon many years ago was an underground community of guys who were developing tactics and techniques for getting massive success with women. It was kind of like waking up as Neo in the movie “The Matrix” and realizing the world was totally different than what we thought it was, and that even average guys like us actually COULD date and seduce beautiful women. Thus the name of this blog, “What is the Art of the Pickup?”.
Instead of machines and agents controlling our minds, we realized it was popular media (agent Oprah), religion (agent Father John), and even friends and family (agents Mom and Dad) indirectly programming us and stopping us from realizing our true potential and desires.
So we are going to blog here about how we were freed from this “prison of our minds” and how you can be freed, too. We are going to share some really cool routines, tactics and techniques, some cool videos, some personal experiences, maybe some field reports and more. We will also be answering some questions from readers of the blog.
So get ready for some hardcore download of knowledge to your brain and get ready to learn “The Art of the Pickup”, let’s do this!
This page will help you understand the background of this blog.
The basis of this blog can be found on the welcome post, “It’s the question that brought you here.”
Who is Jay Valens?
Jay Valens (aka “Formhandle” within the pickup community) is the founder of Fast Seduction 101, started in 1999, which is the largest web site in the world dedicated to helping men become better and more successful with women. Jay founded Learn The Skills Corp in 2001 as a parent company to Fast Seduction 101, to allow for a sustained growth potential in the new industry. In 2005, Jay partnered with a talented producer, Julian Berardi, to found what would be known as “The Art of the Pickup” and by 2006 released an innovative DVD set under that brand.
Who is Ray Devans?
Ray Devans (aka “TokyoPUA” within the pickup community) is Jay’s business partner in Learn The Skills Corp, and has been working with Jay since 2001. He is involved in helping Jay operate LTSC, FS101, and AOTP.
What is The Art of the Pickup?
“The Art of the Pickup” is a brand established to produce media products of high production value which help, in the most effective way possible, to teach men the ins and outs of pickup: meeting, attraction, follow-up, dating, and seduction.
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We know because we were once looking for the same thing. And when we found it, we realized we weren’t really just looking for satisfaction. We were looking for an answer to a question. It’s the question that drives us. It’s the question that brought you here. You know the question, just as we did.
“What is the art of the pickup?”
It seems simple enough, and the answer is looking for you, and it will find you if you want it to.
